Millie @Atatra@computerfairi.es

Being trans in the UK is expensive!

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what's especially insidious about all of this is that, in queer communities at least, these traits are universally celebrated in cis women and people commonly perceived to be cis women (i.e., femme/non-transitioning AFAB enbies).

our communities love it when cis women are assertive, speak up, advocate for their needs, or express sexual agency.

transfeminine people don't get that privilege, because we're perceived as men - and men already get too much of all of the above.

nevermind the fact that we're not men, and we never have been - and that transfem people are more likely to be violence, abuse, SA, and trauma survivors than perpetrators, especially at the hands of the very same cis men whose sins we're saddled with.

when I say that transfeminine people are pressured into the role of fawning mommy-girlfriend in order to distance ourselves from our perceived masculinity, I mean that in the most literal sense of the phrase.

both in queer-specific spaces and the world at large, everyone is constantly scrutinizing us for signs of perceived "maleness."

if we assert boundaries or advocate for ourselves, we're expressing male entitlement.

if we display any perceived anger or aggressiveness, that's our male socialization poking through the veneer of femininity.

if we speak up too much or too loudly, that's us flaunting our male privilege.

if we're the least bit sexually forward, it's because of our "masculine sex drive."

it's little wonder that so many of us are browbeat into subsuming our true selves behind a fawning caricature of patriarchal femininity.

Petitions in the UK:

Legally enshrine the right of adults to physically transition using NHS services

https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/704793

Allow transgender people to self-identify their legal gender.

https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/701159