ScottinSoCal πΊπ¦ π π³βπ @ScottSoCal@computerfairi.es
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- JoeMyGod
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So... me. Work in aerospace, more space, not as much aero. Can fix my own car, choose not to. Can fix the random appliance of your choice. Hardcore introvert in person, which is why I love online. Lifelong science fiction fan. Read constantly. Scalzi is my favorite author, because he mixes exactly the right amount of snark into his writing. Together with a guy 30+ years, married since it was legal. Own a home in CA and don't plan to leave unless I immigrate to another country.
Joined Nov 2022
@DarkSheepArts @andy_twosticks @actuallyautistic
Probably linked to how we (cis western males) are raised. We are taught not to cry nor to express fear, and channel all that into anger. Because a good man should be aggressive. Meaning everytime we feel a bad emotion, we interpret it as anger.
Except when anger is not an emotion you naturally tend to express. Then you are left with nothing and turns everything inwards, because you are afraid to show other emotions, leading to anxiety, and sometimes when it's too much, anxiety attacks...
(I don't know if that scenario makes sense, I just speak for myself here)
@exme@neurodifferent.me @Pathfinder @Zumbador @actuallyautistic
Years ago, I turned my house into my free zone. I can do what I want, I can crawl around on the floor playing with the dogs, I can bark with them, I can whistle with Scooter the parrot. At home there are no expectations for me to act my age and behave like a civilized adult. And I can eat tiramisu for breakfast if I want to, because it's my house.
Feel badly now. I was excited to help support an employee group around #neurodiversity. Unfortunately it quickly resulted in my being pinged by folks about the setting up of a meeting. I rapidly went into #anxiety and just tapped out. My son, less frequently now, talks about feeling like a #failure. This is that feeling. It sucks. I need to give myself the space to accept my limits and be kinder to myself, but right now I may just have to wallow in it a bit. #ActuallyAutistc @actuallyautistic
@Zumbador @PatternChaser @thecatwasnot @Pathfinder @actuallyautistic
"realising that you're judging yourself so hard because you judge *other people* so hard"
One of the most difficult things for me to do is give myself the same benefit of the doubt that I give to other people. I've always judged myself more harshly than I do anyone else. But I'm trying.
@PatternChaser @thecatwasnot @Pathfinder @actuallyautistic I'm not the person you asked - but I have this problem too.
What's to process?
Sometimes, it's questioning the premise whether or not you made a mistake at all. Sometimes it's looking at the situation and checking if you are trying to claim control of a situation that was out of your control to begin with. Sometimes, it's finding the funny side of it even though there was pain. Sometimes it's realising that you're judging yourself so hard because you judge *other people* so hard, and now your own judegment has come to bite you in the butt so maybe you need to be kinder to others as well as to yourself? Accept that people, including you, are fallible, and that it's ok to make mistakes?
What usually works for me is to just tell myself "you know what, that thing I did was not so bad, I've done MUCH worse things than that," and then move on to distracting myself immediately. For some reason that takes the sting out of it for me.
"The fact of the matter is that this bill was totally unnecessary. The President has the authority and the ability to eliminate the debt ceiling today by invoking the 14th Amendment."
*May* be unnecessary, depending on the interpretation by a court stacked with fascists, who are willing to bend legal logic into a pretzel, and ignore legal precedent to impose their agenda. Biden did the thing that guaranteed a less-bad outcome.
Another #car from the archives. I'll admit being a fan of the #Transformers was part of my reason for doing this one. π
Prints can be found here: https://mark-tisdale.pixels.com/featured/classic-red-lamborghini-on-a-rainy-night-mark-tisdale.html
#DigitalArt #lamborghini #sportscar #MastoArt #ArtMatters #lgbtqartist #CreativeToots #MarkOnArt
The reason we have LGBTQ Pride Month is not to celebrate our pride but to insist on our right to exist without persecution.
I stand in solidarity with my trans brothers and sisters and their right to exist without persecution.
#LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #LGBT #PrideMonth #PrideMonth2023
#TransRightsAreHumanRights
Ok! Hello! I am allowed to be a person again! Good morning everyone, happy pride! Have a dog photo!
It's #Newstodon Friday again, the day where #news organizations who are active here on #Mastodon show you their best work!
#JOURNALISM SUPER FRIENDS ASSEMBLE!
@damemagazine @TexasObserver @kcts9 @themarkup @thexylom @mongabay @TucsonSentinel @Chron @ProPublica
Montana's drag ban was applied to a transgender person doing public speaking. No music, no dance, just a trans person and a podium. This is what they want. They want us to be removed from public life. This is identical to what Hitler did with the Nuremberg Laws. Eventually the punishment for us simply existing in public spaces will be jail time. If that makes you uncomfortable, please speak up to whomever will listen. Fixing this requires cis support.
I have a sticker for the sad GQP rep:
The #Bible has been removed from libraries in Utah after a parent used a new law that permits the removal of "pornographic".
The parent argued that the Bible contained topics such as incest, bestiality, genital mutilation, and infanticide, making it pornographic under the new definition set forth in Utah Code Ann. Β§ 76-10-1227.
A GOP lawmaker expressed "sadness" regarding the situation.
Jupiter has something like 90+ moons. I'm not going to count.
When I started astronomy they told me 60.
We just keep learning more and more.
Anyway, the big 4 can be remembered
"I Eat Green Cows" (Io, Europa, Ganymede, and Callisto)
A lot of the others also have names.
I'm just telling you all this so I can show you this gif of some moons orbiting Jupiter.
Good morning Mastodon! Iβm a reporter and editor for @gbhnews focusing much of my time on social justice investigations. I read government documents and spreadsheets for fun! Also: typewriters. Itβs Friday; hereβs an Underwood.
re: Autistic Parenting While Autistic
@ScottSoCal Indeed! I think what I was thinking but didnβt have room to type, was that schools completely disregard the second and third order schedule impacts of their decisions, and act surprised when one raises concerns. So I like to turn it around and suggest they offer me their free times and Iβll fit them in instead. I just had to do this with NPS therapist. Ridiculous. @actuallyautistic
- Pronouns
- He/Him
- Orientation
- So gay. So, so gay.
- JoeMyGod
- Ε ΔΕΕ§Ε§ Δ - πΊπ¦ π
So... me. Work in aerospace, more space, not as much aero. Can fix my own car, choose not to. Can fix the random appliance of your choice. Hardcore introvert in person, which is why I love online. Lifelong science fiction fan. Read constantly. Scalzi is my favorite author, because he mixes exactly the right amount of snark into his writing. Together with a guy 30+ years, married since it was legal. Own a home in CA and don't plan to leave unless I immigrate to another country.
Joined Nov 2022
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