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bigotry towards polyamory, mentions of similar queer trauma and -phobias 

a while ago i knew a few (poly!) people who were adamant that polyamory isnโ€™t queer, because straight cis people can want to date multiple people and then claim to be queer when they donโ€™t actually have any clue what itโ€™s like to be gay, trans, etc.

having just seen numerous people call polyamory โ€œdisgusting,โ€ i really feel like this take erases the bigotry and bias that poly people face. like,

i grew up thinking i was a broken freak because i couldnโ€™t do monogamy. i didnโ€™t even know that poly existed. i didnโ€™t know i wasnโ€™t straight or cis until years later, but failing at monogamy was what 15-year-old rune wrote angsty poems about. doesnโ€™t this sound kinda familiar to any trans people? any aces? etc?

and at least in the US, poly people donโ€™t have marriage equality even in most places where gay marriage is recognized, and where trans people can legally correct the gender on their IDs / birth certificates, etc.

NOT trying to do oppression olympics โ€” different marginalized groups experience different struggles. my point isnโ€™t that itโ€™s worse for poly, just that how can you say that poly people donโ€™t share the โ€œqueer experience?โ€ for most of my life itโ€™s felt like poly wasnโ€™t even on the fucking radar. i assumed i would have to โ€œwait my turnโ€ to fight for marriage equality and, ultimately, i expected to die before poly people have marriage equality (and still do).

so complete strangers call me a disgusting whore, tell me i have commitment issues, constantly ask me stupid questions about poly โ€œbut arenโ€™t you worried you or your partner will fall in love with someone else?โ€ (thatโ€™s the goal, yes!) the same way i got asked stupid questions about being bi โ€œbut how do you know you like girls if youโ€™ve never been with oneโ€

so when someone says poly isnโ€™t queer i kinda wanna do violence. stop erasing us, stop belittling us, and stop telling us weโ€™re not welcome at the rainbow table.

[i donโ€™t think this needs to be said here, since fedi is apparently a giant polycule. but i just wanted to get it off my chest. will probably delete after a short bit because iโ€™m not trying to rage-bait either.

edit: though i say it makes me โ€œkinda wanna do violenceโ€ iโ€™m just expressing my personal pain at being told my poly-specific oppression โ€œdoesnโ€™t count.โ€ iโ€™m a reasonable person and iโ€™m good at listening, so if you have any decent and respectful information on why people think this and the argument for not including poly in queer, you really can share and i promise i wonโ€™t bite your face.]

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Seems to me after last weekโ€™s Supreme Court Immunity decision the choice for Americans comes down to either Mad King Donny or Sometimes-forgetful King Joe.

The idea that Kamala Harris is not eligible for office because of her family background is not only absurd, itโ€™s racist & dangerous. America continues to be haunted by a form of nationalism, rooted in white supremacy, that thrives on lies that vilify people of color. Disgusting.

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I don't know if it's Guardian specifically, but there are a weirdly large number of outlets (including the Guardian) claiming that the far right have taken over the european parliament.

The actual results show the number of far right MEPs has barely changed, but no one is reporting this for some reason.

Speaking as someone observing from across the pond, I find it very disheartening that the Left in America seem more intent on arguing whether they're pro-Biden or anti-Biden than they are about recognising that they're all anti-Trump.

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S02 is the best of ST.
Such an amazing series.
I wish there were 50 episodes per season.
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