Aura V. @auravulpes@computerfairi.es

@mavica honestly, i just went for the cheapest piece of plastic and lens i could find and it seems to work pretty well for me. in doing so, you are kinda taking a chance on how comfortable it'll be (mine has a hard corner that rests right on my nose and it hurts after a while), but that kinda issue aside, whatever you find will probably do the job just fine.

update: things seem to be getting resolved. we're actually talking about this and i'm apologizing for causing them anxiety. this is good. we can handle this.

oh, how i love my brain. someone posted a horrifying bit of hentai in a discord server i'm in, and i responded, letting them know how horrified i was, largely but not completely joking. they apologized and deleted it. now i feel bad. thanks, brain. worse yet, i don't know how to respond. i didn't intend for them to take it down, so "thanks" doesn't feel right, but i also don't feel like explaining this is a good response. uuuuuggggghhhh anxiety.

So, a while back, I drew some transition goals for myself. I'm pleased to report decent process, even without having yet started HRT

Did someone say something about you that's pissing you off? Don't just get angry! Stop, take a deep breath, calm yourself down before you reach full-on anger mode, then re-read what they said, taking particular care not to take it personally just yet. It's possible you've misunderstood what they said, and there might be a much better way of responding than to get angry. It's possible that it is personal and they're saying what you thought they said, but don't just assume! Respond, don't react.

Voting won't win any lasting structural changes, but it is the difference between life and death for anyone who isn't a straight, white, wealthy cis male. It's not meaningful in the long-term, but it is harm reduction and stops many of your potential allies from being killed.

@Nervengift The fun part is when someone (say, me) comes up and goes, say, "Hmm. I use and really like both vim and emacs...which bathroom do I use?" then stands there for 10 minutes trying to figure it out before giving up and finding a bathroom elsewhere

@hope@weirder.earth @esvrld@octodon.social Fascinating! I wasn't aware of that term

From a (very small) bit of research, it seems then that a good term might be "anthropophage".

@calendarbot nice

@esvrld@octodon.social 'donner' is pretty good, though. I like that

@esvrld@octodon.social 'donner' or the (perhaps mildly-pretentious) latin 'homesor' (from 'homo' man + 'ēsor' eater), in the vein of something like 'homicide'. (I do not guarantee the accuracy of this latin. This is literally latin I've worked out from wiktionary.)

Or some other language! I mean, hell, we could just start using the english 'man-eater'

okay, maybe not *every* community. but geez, google's control of the internet is scary. I mean, between them and amazon...

@trashcat@www.librepunk.club One of the big things I don't get is the idea that explaining will make it not funny. Having to explain the joke will mean it's not funny, huh? You know what else makes a joke not funny? Not getting it. At least explaining it has the chance for a small chuckle once they get it.