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Abuse Methodology 

Cross Posting this from Cohost

One of the most mangled phrases on this modern internet of ours is the phrase "accountability." It's often weaponized by community internal culture warriors who refuse to acknowledge that growth, development, and change are a thing a person does (or worse, that these things don't matter), that people are frozen in time and solely a product of their mistakes.

This has gotten so bad that this phrase has become a red flag.

The phrase accountability was originally meant to be akin to paying off debts and squaring away accounts. To that end, there is an end state that needs to be respected by all parties. While people aren't fully required to forget their mistakes or trust them again, acting like they "weren't held accountable" is blatantly wrong provided the offense isn't still happening and the agreed terms were met.

The idea that mistakes are permanent and personal growth is irrelevant doesn't serve to hold people accountable, it paradoxically tells them that accountability doesn't matter since even if they do end up doing better or changing as a person that this mistake will permanently haunt them no matter how different of a person they are now. If that's the case, why bother changing at all, and to that matter, what does accountability look like when literally no measures are considered good enough.

If we use the metaphor of "settling accounts and paying off debts" (which is where the phrase accountability comes from) then this is the moral equivalent of loansharking and putting people in a debt trap. They don't want accountability, they want a sense of power and control over people they see as threats, so they use the social equivalent of organized crime tactics to do so.

lol I feel like that kangaroo yogi from Aggretsuko sometimes

~✨*PROTEIN*✨~

food & beverage mentioned 

idk who needs to read/hear this but

put down the caffeinated whatever drink

put it down :paw_fx90_point_down:

and go eat something with protein in it ASAP, like 10g or more

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the table behind me was old school emos,... or very young and we're in some sort of an emo renaissance (do youngins know Gir???)

Christmas songs 

Also I don't like thinking about how it's a "retro " song, cuz then I remember I am infact, getting older all the time lol :blobsweats:

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Christmas songs 

Most of the time pop remixes of x-mas songs are fine IMHO, but Last Christmas by WHAM! Is perfect as is leave it the FUCK alone!!!

There's a rando a table ahead of me that legit looks like a TV/movie hacker, maroon hoodie with the hood up, iced coffee, tablet setup with cables and accessories

Neato

Christmas mentioned 

It's on me for thinking 24/7 diner at 1:40 am wouldn't have an ominous vibe, but the X-Mas music is really topping it

Little snow. Light snowfall appears. Northern winds have blown the last leaves from the trees. 🌨

food/cooking 

me, watching a mess of oil being created as I try to pan fry something: maybe I should stick to baking. . .

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