Harp the Wigglytuff @wigglytuffitout@computerfairi.es

"i'm very sad because my partner thinks the only way they can work on their past traumas is by leaving our relationship, and i hope to show them that they're wrong soon"

sounds like your partner's right buddy, if your contributions are gaslighting them into ignoring their needs for mental wellness, downplaying those needs and trivializing them, and focusing on your need (having them around) above their health

so: lol bye, have a mute

@SquidPresident yeah typically that's how it do! if there's stopgap stuff before that step up into separating liquids and foods, it's typically not just straight water. that apparently is a good way to get a constipated infant, which is not real fun for anybody

i hope to never have to use this knowledge but for some reason i know it. thanks, lint trap brain

@SquidPresident hey, the fact that you know you don't know and are willing to admit that and look for the answer puts you head and shoulders above people who just trust whatever grandma did

(but i actually know the answer to this for some reason - if the kiddo is still on bottles, only formula/breastmilk, that's hydration and also needed calories. stepping up to other liquids is a developmental milestone that can be ok'd when you get there, typically when baby is on baby food for calories.)

@Sapphicgiraffic@snouts.online oh yeah, i'm sure that the vast majority of the time it's used as "i diagnose you with your parents are paying me money so get in line"

i think the last time i saw it mentioned in a context where i was like "yeah makes sense" was a professional giving commentary about a video of asylum-seekers reunited at the border, and the very sad scene of a little boy running away from/hitting his mom because he couldn't handle it, which could eventually become oppositionityblahblahblah.

@Sapphicgiraffic@snouts.online ...but i think at that point the more regular language is to talk about it as a variant of CPTSD

@Sapphicgiraffic@snouts.online honestly i've seen a *few* people talking about it as a thing that scans to me as "yeah that exists" but mostly in terms of like foster kids or adopted kids who development in direct response to trauma, like an attachment disorder variant where the emotional logic is "i'm going to ruin this now because then at least i know when it's going to be fucked instead of waiting for when it to fucking happen and having that dread driving me mad"

i'm also not too proud to admit that practical concerns aside, a field of pretty white cows that have been stencilled with blue willow china designs would be a very strong aesthetic statement

sir george sitwell did have one truly excellent idea, which is this quote, which i am tempted every time i see it to make it a pinned banner on every social media account i have:

“I must ask anyone entering the house never to contradict me in any way, as it interferes with the functioning of the gastric juices and prevents my sleeping at night.”

@sporks@snouts.online i imagine the umbral mozz is this lad

@InspectorCaracal i admit my fav "got too much money gotta show people that i have too much money" idea around that era (or rather a tad later) was the british eccentric who kept a field of white cows but had them all painted with a blue willow china pattern to make them prettier https://historythings.com/historys-nutcases-sir-george-sitwell/

my dad is planning to make little videos for all the niblings of granddad explaining science concepts

👼 me: oh what a nice idea, now they get to watch it over and over

😈 me: I WONDER HOW MANY TIMES I CAN GINGERLY CRASH HIS RECORDING AND HAVE MY EEVEE OR CARBUNCLE PLUSHIES JUST GALLOPING IN THE BACKGROUND AND WAVING HELLO

@eightbitsamurai@elekk.xyz i guess it's a pretty good testa-mint to your perseverance

today's truth:

let's plays are little sibling culture

don't at me you know i'm right

p.s. it's not terribly effective

i call this new #spoonie move the 'bartleby the scrivener', when the pain starts climbing up my jaw i just yell I WOULD PREFER NOT TO