Tarale @Tarale@computerfairi.es

And tootdon set up here too

My 13 month old shows more emotional maturity in that he can at least stop himself touching the power socket after I say no a few times

She's deleted the thread after her "OH MY GOD I COULD LIST SO MANY REASONS WHY IT SUCKS" was met with "go on then"

Yesterday/today "I want drama but for no reason" we have a discussion about Mad Max Fury Road in which she puts forward the brave but controversial opinion that the movie is shit and then goes OH MY GOD I'M BEING ATTACKED when everyone who loves the film is like "you fucking wot mate?"

Getting really fed up with a friend's conflict-as-a-hobby social interactions.

It did.

Hopefully the pressure cooker doesn't do that bullshit thing it does where it can't sense the water because the mince has settled

@kungtotte @Xkeeper Like, once he gets defensive, he's in a headspace where he seems to be completely unable to hear what I'm actually saying at all.

@kungtotte @Xkeeper Oh, we've done the flip his wig thing, it's not constructive. Also potentially not good for the little one, if he witnesses it. I just wish I could avoid this defensive "ahh i'm being criticised i'm the victim wahhh" shit

@Xkeeper I think all he hears is criticism and the kneejerk reaction to that is defensiveness. I don't think it helps that society at large tells him the labour he performs in exchange for a wage is inherently more useful than the unpaid labour I'm performing at home

@Xkeeper He's not actually calling me a hateful bitch or anything, btw. He just overreacts to me getting frustrated when he's off having fun and I'm being cook or dish pig or laundress…

@Xkeeper super super super super super SUPER

@Xkeeper apparently this shit is super common as soon as a baby arrives in a household. There's a massive increase in work to be done, and it almost always winds up being distributed super unevenly. And because one parent goes to work and earns money for everyone it's super common for them to flip their wig when the stay at home parent begs for some help

I just want to know where MY fun is. Where MY rest is.

But I guess I better stir the bolognese and clean up the kitchen.

Like, that is never what I mean. I don't mean "I'm not having any fun so you're not allowed to have any fun". I don't mean "please get rid of your VR equipment and all your toys and live a joyless existence from here on because I'm a hateful bitch"

It is a little frustrating that I've spent all of today cooking or cleaning, and my husband is fucking around in VR, and if I mention it to him he'll be "I GUESS I'M NEVER ALLOWED TO HAVE FUN THEN"

LOOK, PRESSURE COOKER
FUCK YOU AND YOUR "EVERYTHING'S OK" ALARM
EVERY TIME YOU BEEP FOR NO REASON
I JUST ABOUT SHIT MYSELF

@maple I saw a (very public, actually) thread on Twitter about mastodon, and someone decried that there were no queer spaces, and considered it, but I also wasn't sure if you wanted to risk the general floodgates. I will bring it up in smaller groups though. :)