Harp the Wigglytuff @wigglytuffitout@computerfairi.es

i actually have two snail face masks i should try out but, dear reader, i am Slightly Scared

@Alyx i mean snail mucus is all the rage in asian skincare why not

the internet: answering anonymous questions is so fun!!! here's my curiouscat/etc etc come ask me questions!!!!! :>>>

me, someone who was fat in middle school where there was also a laptop program and we all had internet access: Hm, Y'all Have Fun, But For Me, Personally, Not In A Million Fucking Years

note that this is one of those times where it started out a shitpost but i honest to god do desire this object, because summer is here in georgia, i am dying of heat, and i know that my spoonie, sick, in pain ass can't twist myself into the pretzels required to shave my own legs

concept: one of those lawnmowing robots, but in miniature, so that i can just prop up my legs and let it sort out shaving them

@minty_beebooks i first read this as like a cw and i was about to be so offended on @Sapphicgiraffic@snouts.online 's behalf that someone was being negative about giraffes

anyway the one true kink that matters is someone adoring and loving you with genuine, humble respect, not as just one facet, or even a few facets, but as your whole, gestalt entity, as the sum of all parts, of all thoughts, interests, and so on, truly allowing you to be vulnerable and open, and receiving such in return, all the gates flung wide so that souls can mingle freely

don't at me you know i'm right

NOTE:

"but i'm not a straight man so-"

YOU

DO

NOT

GET

A

FREE

PASS.

ACTING AS IF YOU ARE ENTITLED TO DEHUMANIZE WOMEN AND THAT THEY SHOULD BE HONORED TO BE ON THE RECEIVING END WILL MAKE ME STILL WANT TO PRY OPEN YOUR EYES AND DELICATELY SLICE YOUR EYEBALLS TO RIBBONS WHILE YOU ARE RESTRAINED AND CAN ONLY SCREAM.

if your bbw kink is justified with "but the fatties should be honored by this because i'm doing them a FAVOR by fetishizing them!", and you solidly consider bbw as a way to dehumanize fat women, and not consider their humanity in the least, and laugh at them for asking for consideration because WELL NOBODY ELSE IS GONNA SLEEP WITH YA FATTY:

i sincerely, truly hope you dine on broken glass and spend the next four weeks dying slowly and painfully.

honestly as a fat woman one of the most offputting attitudes i've ever encountered - and consider a subset of fatphobia - is that of

"well you should consider people into bbw/my own bbw kink as a really big compliment! i mean, isn't people seeing you as sexy so NOVEL and UNUSUAL? so stop worrying about being dehumanized already, gawd!"

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"maybe this person is worried about bbw chasers bc she wants someone interested in her as a gestalt whole, like i am. so maybe we shouldn't dismiss her concerns wholesale as absurd or just internalized self-loathing"

>lol how silly, when i was dating i was just excited for anyone who liked me

WELL THEN BULLY FOR YOU BUT YOU'RE NOT EVERYONE, YOU NITWIT.

i mean honestly

if your partner says the only way they can work through their trauma and get mental wellness is to not be in a relationship with you

i swear this makes me want to make a Highlights For Children style cartoon

GALLANT is sad but loves their partner and wants them to get help and recovery!

GOOFUS minimizes their partner's stated needs and is concerned mostly about not being in a relationship with them!

"i'm very sad because my partner thinks the only way they can work on their past traumas is by leaving our relationship, and i hope to show them that they're wrong soon"

sounds like your partner's right buddy, if your contributions are gaslighting them into ignoring their needs for mental wellness, downplaying those needs and trivializing them, and focusing on your need (having them around) above their health

so: lol bye, have a mute

@SquidPresident yeah typically that's how it do! if there's stopgap stuff before that step up into separating liquids and foods, it's typically not just straight water. that apparently is a good way to get a constipated infant, which is not real fun for anybody

i hope to never have to use this knowledge but for some reason i know it. thanks, lint trap brain

@SquidPresident hey, the fact that you know you don't know and are willing to admit that and look for the answer puts you head and shoulders above people who just trust whatever grandma did

(but i actually know the answer to this for some reason - if the kiddo is still on bottles, only formula/breastmilk, that's hydration and also needed calories. stepping up to other liquids is a developmental milestone that can be ok'd when you get there, typically when baby is on baby food for calories.)

@Sapphicgiraffic@snouts.online oh yeah, i'm sure that the vast majority of the time it's used as "i diagnose you with your parents are paying me money so get in line"

i think the last time i saw it mentioned in a context where i was like "yeah makes sense" was a professional giving commentary about a video of asylum-seekers reunited at the border, and the very sad scene of a little boy running away from/hitting his mom because he couldn't handle it, which could eventually become oppositionityblahblahblah.

@Sapphicgiraffic@snouts.online ...but i think at that point the more regular language is to talk about it as a variant of CPTSD

@Sapphicgiraffic@snouts.online honestly i've seen a *few* people talking about it as a thing that scans to me as "yeah that exists" but mostly in terms of like foster kids or adopted kids who development in direct response to trauma, like an attachment disorder variant where the emotional logic is "i'm going to ruin this now because then at least i know when it's going to be fucked instead of waiting for when it to fucking happen and having that dread driving me mad"