tanuki~ @heytanuki@computerfairi.es
- call me
- [Tt]anuki, nuki, they/them, captain
- gender
- panic!
- no masculine terms thx
- yes neutral/cute terms pls
- going to
- MFF2018, TFF2019 (pls hug tanuki)
hi my name is tanuki (they/them), i'm a tanuki. ace, diamoric, still unabashedly adoring fat people. enby af. that means nonbinary. it's a term i prefer.
building a gender out of scrap parts.
maybe you knew me before. if you have questions, just ask~
Joined Aug 2018
@Saxxon i'll be there. let's say hello and be nonbinary af!
family stuff (~)
the weirdest thing was that last weekend made me realize i kind of want my parents to know me. to have some kind of relationship. i am pretty sure they'd accept me? but i'm bad at saying it out loud. i want to control everything, like how they understand trans and nonbinary, to manage those expectations. and then to tell them i'm trying HRT? ahahah
hgrmff. happy coming out day to everyone, i'm especially not a fan of holidays but y'all can have it =3
self-care, exhaustion (~)
ooooomf. the past month took more out of me physically/socially/psychologically than i expected, and i haven't been recovering right, i've been stressing about everything.
hey tanuki: realize that the stress you feel is a product of your social/physical exhaustion, stop trying to do things, chill. no plans. no 12-hour workdays if you can help it.
hey everyone else: daaaaang i finally beat Dead Cells (first ending???) woo
@RavenWorks specifically "hem" is pretty much "him" and nah
unless you meant "ther" and hmm. it just looks weird because i want to pronounce it "thurr" x3
@RavenWorks it isssss, honestly it can stay, the other two need some work x3
also specificially avoiding "hem"/"heirs"
@RavenWorks what my brain wants to do for you: mash up she and they,
she/her/hers + they/them/theirs =
shey/ther/thers
"shay"/"thurr"/"thurrs"
my brain tries real hard to be helpful =S
@RavenWorks i feel you 100% and while 'they' works well for me, it's a very specific feeling.
which is kind of ironic for a "general" pronoun?
but you hit the nail when you mentioned worry that 'she' would make people think you were JUST a woman. that's the feeling i get when (unprompted) i've gotten 'she' in the wild. equal parts elation that it's not AGAB, and chagrin that that's what people assume. hrrrrNNG PRONOUN MOODS
Slimy-Feeling Joke
@Lunostophiles@snouts.online i 'MDYING AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
Body Stuff, Femme Passing Questions, Padding?
@tahajin and the corset-type-thing i have is: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0781BPFG4
it's very strong but doesn't really have the desired effect on my shape? my middle is formidable, bones-wise!
happy to help! haha when i was experimenting with shape-changing things it was early this year and i felt a bit more shame about it. now? heck shame. heck it.
Body Stuff, Femme Passing Questions, Padding?
@tahajin going TOO THICC (like 2" thick pads) looks unnatural on me but if i slip a skirt over it, it's cool~
just depends on the day really. ideally i want all the butt fatness, but legs to match too T.T
the pads are washable (i don't machine dry em as a precaution)
and unfortunately i dunno about padded bras (i share with my partner), but they're are def around.
Body Stuff, Femme Passing Questions, Padding?
@tahajin hokay! these are my current favorite, because of the hips AND butt coverage: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B073W2LFZQ
aaand they're not available, but check the search terms and find something that is! these don't have very thick pads but sliding a little extra into the pockets works (i cut some foam)
i'm a chubby enby but not THAT chubby (size 34 pants/size 14 dress) and an XXXXL fit me just right. that's generally the case with Asian-made clothing
Body Stuff, Femme Passing Questions, Padding?
@tahajin i wear hip padding! it's not a whole lot but it's subtle and makes me feel better, haha
when i get a moment, i can drag up the things i got on Amazon
@chuxen@queer.party omg she's so great still! not losing anything by being realistic 💜
@sol @chuxen@queer.party shiny!!!!
I"M HOME. AAAAAAAAAAA
gender
@poss_bot oh gosh this is awesome, I'm really trying to get there, but same feelings. 💖💜💝
formal clothes (+) nosy family (-)
good stuff: realizing I'm low-social and it wasn't just clothing-fueled dysphoria making me not want to deal with people in a formal setting.
bad stuff: people who I figured would Not Like my style asking me probing questions. getting assumed to be gay (not the fun expansive meaning of gay).
???? stuff: my dad says "tonight's a big night for you, isn't it?" without me having explained anything. I think he might be seeing me and it is so weird
- call me
- [Tt]anuki, nuki, they/them, captain
- gender
- panic!
- no masculine terms thx
- yes neutral/cute terms pls
- going to
- MFF2018, TFF2019 (pls hug tanuki)
hi my name is tanuki (they/them), i'm a tanuki. ace, diamoric, still unabashedly adoring fat people. enby af. that means nonbinary. it's a term i prefer.
building a gender out of scrap parts.
maybe you knew me before. if you have questions, just ask~
Joined Aug 2018
